Sunday, September 27, 2015

You. Go. Girl. (The Running Story)



Almost every day at almost the same time I go running and it makes me happy. 
I love my apple watch, I love my music, I love the hills, I love the way there is free water on the golf course.
I would like to be running right now, but no, I’m making myself sit here and write this out of penance because I’m a horrible person. 
Actually, that’s too strong.
 I’m not horrible but I definitely wanted to cause harm. 
 OK, maybe harm is too strong, but I felt something less than love and here I am to confess it.
Let me preface with this. My 4 mile running loop is a rational one that doesn’t involve tramping around traffic or through woods.  OK? So one day when I’m running and I see a woman taking an irrational course that involves tramping through the woods and cutting right in front of me on the course, I was understandably shaken. 
 I was running my own race, staying in my step, going breath to breath, all that awesome Zen yoga running stuff, when all the sudden -- through no fault of my own -- I’m BEHIND SOMEONE.
And the person I’m behind isn’t even RUNNING which means I must (must) race and pass her, even though the entire next ¼ mile is uphill. I use my watch to scroll through songs until I find one a little faster and off I go.
Just as I’m about to pass her she stops (SHE STOPS?) and looks at all the deer that are gathered for their nightly feast on golf course gardens etc.  I wave as I pass her and go up the hill, the steepest part of the run. Up, up and to the top. 
I walk through a crossing then run up the steepest part of the hill, the part so steep that sometimes golf carts have to turn around, get more momentum, and go back up. I feel badass as can be.
As I run my usual path I see the woman I passed taking a shortcut down the street and through the woods. She’s cheating. I run as hard as I can and just as I’m about to pass her (again) she stops to talk to a cat.
I keep going, and I let it go, because this is a HUGE universe full of more interesting things to think about.
The next day I go running, and it makes me happy.
Until I see her out on the street.
I smile and wave and go up the hill on my normal course.
A minute later she runs by.
I’m shocked because she isn’t wearing clothes a person would run in, and she’s waving her phone like she might throw it any minute, but OK, there she goes in front of me. You. Go. Girl.
Until she hits the first hill and her run turns to a jagged stagger then a walk.
I remind myself to run my own race, to stay in my breath, to go step by step, but despite all of that I speed up my pace as I tackle the hill and as I pass her, I think horrible inappropriate thoughts the Pope would not condone (ex: VICTORY IS MINE!)  but I think them anyway and savor them like candy.
Seriously. I love running.

Mashup * 11:15 Class Fall 2014* Story Project


Here is a sampling of opening paragraphs from the research papers submitted by my 11:15 class* in 2014
 
Enjoy!

It was April 10th 1925 my grandfather Henry DeMarco was born in a little town in Italy called Salento just south of Naples. Salento was on the side of a mountain made up of about three streets and twenty buildings or so, the largest building being the Catholic Church St. Barbra’s. Henry loved growing up in Italy; he had 2 sisters Lee and Esther that he was very close with. At the age of 10, Henry and his family packed up their little Italian home and moved to the United States.


My family has rich history rooted in Tallahassee and Florida State University. Ancestors on my dad’s side were among the original people of Tallahassee. One of my great grandmothers was half Creek Indian. My other grandmother was attended Florida State during the time that it was Florida State College for Women. I have also had both grandparents and father graduate from Florida State. As you can see, my roots are deeply planted in Tallahassee My grandfather grew up off of Tharpe Street when it was only a dirt road....
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He had been fighting cancer for about 4 or 5 years and had been cleared for a while, but it had come back and he was diagnosed with prostate cancer and told this was probably going to be it. That summer my grandparents had one request, that all of the family would go on a vacation together that summer for their 50th wedding anniversary. We all went to my aunt and uncle’s beach house in St. Augustine, Florida for a week. For that one week, we played on the beach, watched sunsets all together, sang and danced, had meals together as a family, and enjoyed every minute we had together. While we were all there, we reenacted my grandparents wedding and made a tux and wedding dress for my grandfather and grandmother (Granny), out of trash bags, duct tape, and tissue paper.


My family is like one huge puzzle, and without their family the puzzle would not be complete. It’s crazy to know tragedies like this happen and you just have to be in the right place at the right time. But altogether I am telling this story, because this story has taught me so many life lessons and has changed my perspective on a variety of things. I have learned to always keep pushing, and to never back down. I have learned to live everyday like it’s my last. I have learned to always follow my heart, as well as my instincts before choosing to do something. I have learned to go to others in a desperate time in need. And last but not least, I have learned miracles are not handed out very often, and when they are, you must cherish them immensely.
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In the year of 1932 on November 9th, Ollie Lee Brown was born to Floyd and Rilla Brown.  He was delivered by a mid-wife in the back room of his family’s small house.  During this time period Ollie’s family and others like them didn’t go to hospitals.  They were either too far away, or there wasn’t admittance for them, or they just couldn’t afford a hospital visit.  He was one of ten children; seven boys and three girls.  Ollie grew up as the son of a sharecropper in the rural area of Enterprise, Mississippi.  His father worked hard for many years and saved until he had enough money to buy a piece of land and build a four bedroom home for the family of twelve.  Ollie’s family was one of a few coloreds who had their own home.
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Leaving Lowry Air Force Base which is located in Denver, Colorado was probably one of the saddest moments in my entire life. This was the first time I’d actually been this far away from home, which is Lakewood, New Jersey and Lowry had marked the beginning of my young adult independence. It was two weeks prior to my venturing back to a place that was all too familiar, home, I sat across from my Out-processing Counselor, stunned at the scariest instructions ever given to me. The counselor asked me, “How fast does your facial hair grow?” I replied, “Pretty fast.” She then instructed me to not shave or cut my hair two weeks prior to my flight departure from New Jersey to Korea. Why? Because I would be flying commercial from Newark, New Jersey to Soul, Korea and if there was to be a terrorist onboard, I would be a prime target for ransom. When I asked, “Why me?” she said, “Because you work for Ronald Reagan, the President of the United States which makes you, Government Issued. Well I guess you know, as those two weeks began to approach I was getting all sorts of willies and butterflies in my stomach along with heart flutters. But by the grace of our Creator, I made it. Boy, what a culture shock though.
Tough to fathom that my Grandpa survived two wars. World War II and the Korean War. He was injured in both wars and would receive a purple heart in regards to his battle wounds. In fact, he walked around with shrapnel lodged in the back his neck for the duration of his life. The conditions as he explained in both wars were quite harsh. He said that he and his infantry would dig out foxholes, (a hole in the ground to protect them from enemy fire). According to my father, “Grandpa had to survive in zero degree temperatures in the Korean War. They wore minimal clothing as compared to soldiers today, who are fortunate enough to have new technology that provides better warmth in combat.” This information in fact comes from a man who had been in a few combat situations overseas while serving in the NAVY. He said himself that he was able to wear ‘thick ass’ socks in frigid temperatures to stay warm. My Dad described my Grandpa by exclaiming that, “He was a ‘tough cookie.’ The dude was ‘tough as nails’.” Even though Grandpa was bruised and battered during his wartime battles, and possessed the traits of being a ‘tough cookie’, he was surely a loving Grandfather.

I was born and lived as a Jew in southern Covington Georgia surrounded by bible following Christians, who once experienced the attack, put the bibles down and there hands up. For those that threw their hands up in anger of learning that Japs attacked us on our own soil, there hands were not as raised as mine. I knew what was going on over in Europe and what that piece of shit of a man, Hitler, was doing to my fellow Jewish followers. Now I was taught my whole to never stand aside and let things happen.
My aunt’s passing affected me as well due to the fact she was my favorite aunt.  As a child I always wanted to go to her house and spend time with her because she was always so concerned about what was going on with my brother and me.  I assumed it was because she loved us more than her children but now I know it’s because we lived so far away from the rest of the family in Virginia.  When my mother told me that my aunt had AIDS my first reaction resulted in crying because I knew she was going to die.  Then anger because her and the family kept it from me until she was on her death bed.  At the time she was diagnosed with AIDS there wasn’t much information about the virus therefore there wasn’t much treatment for it either.  I too was guilty of treating my aunt indifferently

My dad worked as a mechanic fixing government owned vehicles, trucks that picked up refugees personal belongings when they decided to flee the country. This was the penalty for leaving Cuba, all of the items you bought, worked for, or that were passed down to you from you from your ancestors, all was seized by the government. Indeed, my father worked for the enemy.
In this day and age many heroes are called upon to preform task that only the brave can achieve.This brave soul that I am going to take you on a journey with is one of the most iconic men that I have known in my lifetime. He is a man of morals, respect, and responsibility. Now, looking at him from the naked eye he isn’t what society would call your topical marine. He’s not 6’3 weighting 235 all muscles with the smile of the american golden boy. He’s more like a short stocky 5’8 guy with a ruff after shave beard, arms covered with cuts and bruises from only god knows what. Dark skin cat with a shaved head and nothing to looses with out a fear in his heart.This man wouldn’t kill a fly, but for the united state he would put his life on the line. In my eyes that’s the true definition of a marine.
To begin with, to first understand my Grandfather you must know what kind of man he was. He was a very kind man he would do anything for anybody, from a perfect stranger to his family he was literally the guy that would give the shirt off his back for someone in need. He always expressed it by his actions and his words. For example, my Grandfather retired as a boat maker, he worked at this Boat garage I suppose you could call it, and one day there was this lady, a complete stranger to my grandpa was looking by a boat that was up high supported by three big rods. Well, one of the rods broke and my grandad moved very quickly, cathing the boat and stopping it from falling on the lady. He saved her from horrific injuries if not death. However, by doing tat my Grandfather broke his back, hurting himself baddly. He had to have a few surgeries and would continue to have problems with his back and be a little shorter than he was. But that is something I will always remember, and it shows what kind of man he was, how caring and compassionate he was. For as long as I remember his eyes expressed kindness when you looked into them. My Grandfather was one of those guys you could not help but love him. Even if you were a perfect stranger you would end uo having a conversation about aything with the guy and walk away remembering him. And yes he would talk to strangers he would be at te store or run into someone, or a resturant, but he always made aquantiences with people. 
A number of years back when we Americans were faced with the horrific crime of the bombing of the Twin Towers In New York City each of us was left to deal with this tragedy in our own way.  Some people were lucky enough to have to deal with this nightmare from a far while others were right in the line of destruction. This one day in time caused life changes that tore a family apart.  The people affected were never the same and would in many cases people lost their belief in everything they once took for granted life. Because in life so many of us have family, friends or relatives that connect with other cities when something happens in one place the impact finds us an hits us head on.  Such as in this case a family friend that was employed in one of the accounting firms that was hit pretty hard survived.  They survived physically but the mental destruction was something they had to live with and cope with each day. 
In a very small community, situated on the top of the big Colombian mountains very far from a big and crowded city is. Where humble but hard working families are always trying to move forward and be successful, but these families are always living in fear that their home and property, the only thing that they have, will be invaded and taken away without their permission.
            The Sanchez family, formed by Manuel and Matilda Sanchez, 38 and 35 years of age, two sons, and one daughter were living and working on their farm. They were growing and picking coffee beans, and beans. Also, they had some chickens, cows, pigs, and goats. They collected and took these products to the closest market to sell them and earn enough money to buy groceries and make a living.
There had been warnings of Hurricane Katrina approaching but we didn’t think it was that big of a deal. Boy were we wrong.
In 1969, my mother and father attended Crystal Lake Junior High School in Lakeland, Fl. They first met in a history class where they were sitting in the second row of the classroom. From then on, they kept talking to each other whether it was school, sports, family, etc.

My mom has always been a freak about her photos. She has bins on top of bins stacked inside of closets of all kinds of photos. She’s like an archivist for our entire family. Every so often my mom breaks out the photos and shakes the dust of them and shares with us little pieces of our family history. On one particular day I poked my head into the garage looking for my mom so she can help me find my phone charger. Everyone knows that nothing is really lost until mom can’t find it. As I was just about to ask her she handed me a vintage photograph of a man. The man was handsome. He had a strong jaw and black slick hair. She told me he was my great grandfather and if it weren’t for him wanting to provide more his family and leaving Puerto Rico we may have never made it to the states. At least not as the family we had grown to be. She must have sensed my confusion because she snatched the photo back and ran inside. I stood in the garage awkwardly and waited. My mom came blazing back out with giant photo album and my dad in tow.
The time was 6:00 AM and the morning was no different than any other. The spaces in between the curtains covering the window were allowing small rays of light to penetrate through into the dark room. Specs of dust could be seen floating in the air as they cross the paths of the beams of light. The room was quiet and all that could be heard was the chirping of birds outside waking up in the trees. Dr. Hiro Nakamra lies in bed and rolls off his side onto his back and stares up at the plain white ceiling. He prays and gives thanks for another day of life, especially with the current war and tensions between the United States and Japan. Dr. Nakamura has never been much of an early riser, but in the recent weeks Hiroshima had been getting warnings of possible air raids by B-29 bombers. Of all the important cities in Japan, only two, Kyoto and Hiroshima, had not been targeted by the B-29s.
It all started on a hot summer day in 1999, my sister and I sister didn’t really get along back then. She was nine and I was three so with the age difference we did fight a lot. On this bright sunny morning my sister and I were being surprisingly nice to each other.

Franklin smith was born on October 28, 1961to the parents of Christine Smith and Eugene Smith.  Franklin is survived by eleven siblings. He has four sisters and six brothers. He was the tenth child which makes him the second youngest. He was born in a very small town right outside of Tallahassee called Havana, Florida. He attended James A. Shank’s high school. Franklin graduated in class of 1979. He enlisted in the Navy shortly after in the year of 1980.
It was just another normal everyday Tuesday.  Everyone woke up to a beautiful morning in September, anxious for the fall weather to come.  In every shop and everyone’s home the televisions would blare the morning news.  It was another humdrum everyday morning, until all of a sudden, like as if from a nightmare, the televisions soon turned to the World Trade Center.   There it stood with smoke pouring from the side.  Not but maybe a few minutes later a plane crashed into the second Twin Tower and threw everyone into shock. 
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In between the hail of gunfire across the battlefield, I found myself and other soldiers hiding in the smelly diseased trenches in shell shock. The sight of all of the bloodshed from dying opposition and dead bodies on the battlefield and in the trenches was something most could not even dream of in their worst nightmares. The smell that lingered in the atmosphere from the trenches was so horrible that even a pig would dare step foot into it. I came to a realization that my allies and I were in the middle of a battle to protect our country and there was no time to waste. As the German soldiers began to move in closer to the trenches, an ally who went by the name of “Bojack” tossed two grenades onto the battlefield to buy us some time.
This is a short story about a spunky, limber 97 year old woman’s life from WWI ‘til today. Let me tell you about this ladies journey from Pennsylvania to Tallahassee enduring WWI, WWII, engagement, The Great Depression, Pearl Harbor, marriage, Vietnam War, kids and farts.
As I sit on her couch watching her think back to many years ago I notice her outfit consisting of pink fuzzy socks and pink pajamas. She is sitting in a red recliner sipping on red juice with her white cotton hair and I just knew this was going to be a great story. I hurry up and finish my coffee and get my pen, paper and recorder ready. Here we go!
Anyone who knew Billy Dial in the 1930s could tell that he was one of those guys who was really going to be somebody, the kind of young man who could get things done. Although I didn’t know him in the 1930s, I still came to know him later in life as my great-grandfather. I may have only known him for a short amount of time, but I am 100% certain that he was a man who had a vision, and a man who knew what he was doing. 
Once upon a time, there was a cottage that was hiding a secret. It all happened a long time ago and very very far away. Our cottage is such a nice place, where our family could relax on the weekends from the fast life of a city. Many happy, funny, and even sad things happened at that magical place where every kid would like to explore the scary, cold rooms of our basement. Running around, climbing the trees, enjoying the sun, and view from a big hill to a castle that Napoleon Bonaparte blew up in the air was something that every kid would enjoy to look at. At winter, the whole place changed to a frozen land, where only little birds would come by to eat on some sunflower seeds placed in the windows.
This is a story about my grandfather who was a hero and a great man. He fought in WW2, I am extremely proud of him, and he should be recognized for his actions. He was a hero to me and I looked up to him since I never really had a dad and he was a great person to idolize. He was there for it all during the tragic WW2. He stormed the beach of Normandy with fellow soldiers and made it out alive somehow. He even would share with me that he got to meet Eisenhower and said he was a great guy and was a true American hero. My grandfather was always by his side and even saved his life a couple of times, which was inspirational to me.
It was a nice, sunny morning with no clouds in the sky. The New York City traffic was very busy as usual and people were getting off the subway on their way to work. The city buses were proceeding on their set schedules and the taxis where picking up and dropping off people at their desired destination. Everything in New York City was functioning at its normal pace. My mom who was a medical examiner for the New York Police Department went to work on September 11th 2001 not knowing that this day would change her life tragically. She drove a two and a half hour ride to New York City from up state New York as she did everyday and entered her office like a normal workday. She was organizing her files, answering frequent phone calls that came through her phone line and talking to her colleagues about their plans for the weekend.
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My Grandfather and his first wife met at Florida State University in 1947, after the school became co-ed and admitted men, such as my grandpa. Virginia Wilder was the type of student that worked hard in all of her classes and studied regularly. She graduated with great grades and a high GPA. However, my grandpa was not so much the studious type. He enjoyed more of the fun, party side of college and probably would have failed out of more than a few classes without his then girlfriend’s help. As the story goes, my grandpa was quite the procrastinator and often turned to Virginia for help on homework and studying.
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In the mid 1990’s the FBI started seeing high-end jewelry heist at wholesale stores. Police reports said that the burglar got in and out of the business without setting off any alarms or detection devices. Owners would come into their store and notice million dollar safes burnt open. This person knew how to break into the most sophisticated safes. He committed all the burglaries the same way they were his signature crimes. Authorities couldn’t understand how this person always got away and they were amazed at the sophistication. This person hit jewelry store after jewelry store and police could never get a lead on the case. This man they spoke so highly about was just my uncle….
Maria Puleio was about twenty-two years old when she immigrated to the United States from Colombia. Although she loved Colombia with a passion, she felt that the United States had more in store for her. So she took her chances and moved to the city of Boston, Massachusetts.  She moved into an apartment all by herself, which was located right by the Massachusetts Bay Transportation Authority blue train route, which she used to get around.

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 As I was grasping all of the immense details of my great grandfathers life and journey to the United States my grandmother proceeded to expel the next document in her manila folder which oddly enough  was another certificate. I was starting to wonder if my great grandparents were given numerous awards, but it was a marriage certificate instead.  This certificate was just as ancient  and ruffed up and discolored as the first one she pulled out. On the top in big bold letters was “Certificate of Marriage”. Ironically enough, his last name was spelled wrong again as well as my great grandmothers last name, which was Astorino, which they spelled Osterino. It’s a wonder why not many stories of my family were easily discovered on the internet due to the new spelling and identities these officials were mistakenly awarding my great grandparents.

At the age of five my sister and I were taken away from our birth parents. We were put in a home and it was labeled non relative placement and it stayed like that until we were legally adopted by her. I have memories of a lifestyle needed to be overcome. Some of those memories were not knowing where my next meal would come from, living in cars and homeless shelters, being the caretaker of my baby sister and not knowing how to read.

The Nile annual floods, Egypt called itself Kemet, meaning Black land. In Upper Egypt, from Aswan to the delta, the black, fertile deposits of the river covered an extremely narrow strip of land. Surrounding the river’s alluvial plain was the Red land, the desert environment that could not support life, but where rich deposit of minerals and stone could be mined and quarried. Lower Egypt consists of the Delta itself, which today begins some 13 miles north of Giza, the site of the largest pyramids, across the river from what is now modern Cairo. In ancient times, it began 18 miles south of Giza, near the city of Memphis.


Monday, September 7, 2015

Kardashianism, Sangria and Haters

Every semester I give my students a series of "pretests" where I require that they answer a whole ton of questions that come at them with game-show like speed. 

I don't expect most of my students to get the questions right, especially when most of them associate history class with multiple choice quizzes and crossword puzzles and don't feel especially confident in a college history class. 

The grade for the pretests in my class is based on completion, not correctness.  If my students don't know an answer, they need to dig deep and write SOMETHING (anything except IDK, IDGAF, etc) anyway because creativity is a skill worth honing. And also, requiring answers - even crazy ones - makes grading THAT much more fun for me, and when I'm having fun everyone else has fun. 

 For example, one of my favorite questions to ask is "What two countries fought in the Spanish American War?" Every student who gets it wrong (a strong 1/3, every time) must think that history is a confusing tangled place with random names assigned to wars regardless of their participants.

I've been collecting bloopers for awhile, in case you missed it.  Here is a blurb from my first book, Marvin's Book (1st edition, 2011), explaining the roots of my 20+ year relationship with bloopers.

My freshman year at Loyola University in New Orleans, way back during Reagan’s second presidency, I took the prerequisite writing/composition class from a cheerful bearded male professor who graded our essays “thoroughly.”
On the days he returned our essays, that professor would have an index card in his hand with bloopers of grammar, logic and spelling written on it. Upon entering the classroom he would stand with his back to us, silently copying a list of our collective, anonymous mistakes onto the board.
I don’t remember if any of the mistakes were mine, but I do remember the “teachable moments” that came out of the laughter over the mistakes we made.
No finger pointing, no blaming and certainly no teasing.
In that same spirit, I began posting anonymous funny bloopers from my students’ essay exams on Facebook in the fall of 2009.
I know, I know, Facebook is a huge jump from the privacy of a classroom.
This is exactly how it started.
While grading exams, I came across a particularly funny incorrect answer.
To the short essay question, “Explain the Atlanta Compromise,” a student had written “How Alaska became a state.”
I put the exam down and laughed at one of the worst guesses ever.
Alaska and Atlanta clearly aren’t even the same place.
That wasn’t a “studying” mistake.
It wasn’t evidence that the student wasn’t the chippiest cookie in the cookie package. It was not a sign of the downfall of public and private education, the result of some crack in the system that I’m trying to fix. It was just a funny “slip of concentration” mistake—I see those a lot in exams, especially from students who are new to writing essay exams.
I turned the exam over to see whose it was—I knew the student, I knew he had been to every single class.
I posted his anonymous, incorrect answer as my Facebook status and let other people giggle:
“Grading exams: ‘Q: Explain the Atlanta Compromise A: How Alaska became a state.’”
Thirty people “liked” it.
The person who made the mistake immediately recognized himself and loved it.
He will never, ever, forget that the Atlanta Compromise was what critics called Booker T. Washington’s famous speech, and years later he still likes to laugh at history with me.
I posted more bloopers—just the funny ones like “WW2 started when France invaded Germany through Poland.” 
And “The Neutrality Act just said we would help out everyone in any way we could.” 
In an essay on Operation Mongoose a student wrote: “When JFK became president he came up with a plan to kill Sadam Hussein called Operation Mongoose. Shortly after that, he announces he is communist. This was the Cuban missile crisis.”
Looking for slips of the pen and slips of the mind and slips of stories took my favorite thing (grading) to a new level.
Students loved reading bloopers and learning from them in class.
Ex-students loved that they remembered the material. Colleagues, strangers, friends of friends passed the bloopers among themselves and smiled.
I liked that. I really liked making people think about history and laugh, and so I kept posting bloopers week after week, semester after semester.

That brings us to today. 

On most recent pretest given to approximately 150 students, I asked 21 questions, including  "Name 5 non-Christian religions"  while showing this image -



About half of the students correctly named four non-Christian religions. 

Most of the students had to "make up" at least one religion - some invented several. 

Here is a brief list of the non-Christian religions offered up pretests this semester:
  •  Food
  • Hindidindoo
  • Illuminati
  • Budgadgi
  • Popcorn
  • Car
  • Beyism
  • Greenday 
  • Chinesism
  • Hieroglyphics 
  • Kardashianism
  • Natzi
  • Tupacism
  • Kyrianism
  •  Budapest
  • Sangria
  • Ironic
  • Baseball
  • Russian
  • Facebookism
  • Hiroshima
  • Orange
  • Sprites
  • Colorism
  • The Art of War-ism
  • Anthology
  • Bozy
  • Monks
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  • Olivia
  • The Muppets
  • Grass Worship Lol
  • Texas
  • Arabian
  • Aumish
  •  Haters
  • The Two in India
I like my new students very much already ;-)

Sunday, September 6, 2015

This is College Football. Get Used to It.

(From September 2011... the last time I went to a football game)

Doak Campbell stadium was packed. 

The first quarter was slow and loud, and to be completely honest I spent most of it trying to figure out how to get bars on my iPhone and check into Doak Campbell on Facebook.

By the time I checked in, I had something to say. 

“Watching drunk girls fight at Doak.”

What I didn’t see until the next day was all the snide comments betting these were “sorority girls.”

Yes, yes it was.

They didn’t have Greek letters on their clothes but sorority was woven into their outfits – all wearing similar short dresses, long hair pulled back with matching bows and (sigh) cowgirl boots.

It went down like this.

Excited crowds often stand up at Doak Campbell; once one row stands, the people behind them stand, and a wave of standing behind them ensues. 

My row was 2 from the top – high enough to watch the Miami Game on the TVs in the SkyBoxes. There was no choice, this high, about whether to stand.

The problem was whether to stand on the seat part of the stadium or the floor part.

Apparently, a very petite bow-sporting student (I’m naming her Britney; that’s what I’d call her if she was in my class) – did what people for 20 rows ahead of her were doing; she stood on her seat, blocking the view of the woman behind her (who I’d call Delores).

Britney was in a row of people standing shoulder to shoulder, chanting loudly.

Delores could not see.
Delores’ husband could not see.
This was a big loud game and being there but not able to see must have been frustrating.

Delores could have stood on her seat so that she could see over the sea of sorority bows and camo hats and garnet-gold pompoms instead of having butts waving in her face.

But Delores made a different choice.

She tapped Britney and her to step down.

Britney looked around, surprised and annoyed.

I can imagine what she was thinking – why should I step down? Then I won’t see either?

She wasn’t wearing her peacemaker hat. She was, however, clutching an FSU license plate, which didn’t really go with her bow and dress.

Britney was a rowdy student at a BIG game and we were LOSING. She unleashed on Delores.

“This is COLLEGE FOOTBALL!! GET USED TO IT!!!”

After that, a series of F-bombs ensued, but FSU got a third down so I didn’t watch too carefully.

Then I saw hands flashing in faces and finger pointing. Delores’ husband put his hand between them and then there was a first down and everyone turned. 

Britney’s friend-sister-bow-twin moved her three rows down. The solid line of sorority girls scattered and Delores could see the game.

An exceptionally happy girl from Britney’s matching bow  sisterhood moved to the spot in front of me  where I had been standing.

She introduced herself as E* and asked if I minded her being there.

When I said no, she hugged me (hard), giggled and proclaimed, “I like you!”

In a pause for a TV time out, the girl next to me (Jessica who goes by Brooke) and her friend (who never told me her name but she partied like a Lauren or an Alexis) ask what happened.

So I re-enact it, standing up to shout into the air, “This is COLLEGE FOOTBALL!! GET USED TO IT!!!”

Britney somehow sees with her magic behind the head sight because she turns towards me and gives me her best evil drunk girl look.  Her bow-twin sister friend turns her back around.

E* hugs me again, giggles and jumps and proclaims again, “I REALLY like you!”


After every FSU tackle we chant “This is COLLEGE FOOTBALL!! GET USED TO IT!!!” and Britney turns again and again to look at us until she disappeared into the crowd sometime in the 4th quarter.









Tuesday, September 1, 2015

This is the Best Ham I've Ever Had (Veterans Village Notes)


 (From 8/27 participants)



My name is Sara. This was my first time going to Veterans Village. I had a amazing time. When you first arrive you'll see four multiple color buildings on stilts. There's a little circle further into the complex. And there was a very helpful nice lady in the parking lot showing us where to park. Don't worry if you have a lot of things there are plenty of nice people to help bring your stuff upstairs. Well after I parked she walked over to me and told me that the building everyone was in was the green building on the 2nd floor. So it wasn't hard to find at all. I walked upstairs to be greeted by a couple nice ladies and a few other people who had also brought food. We set up the room like a big buffet and next thing you know, a line of people came through the door and started to make there plate. I had talked to a few Veterans there while standing in line, and many greeted me walking in. "Tom" was one of the guys that came and made a plate. He was ext remely nice and asked if i was a student. We kept talking and I felt like I had a connection with this... stranger. Then we stopped so he could make a plate. "Tom" comes back over by me and sits and starts to eat and before I know it, hes saying how wonderful the food is and how thankful he was. Then to my surprise, he says "this ham is so delicious I wish I new who made it". Coincidentally, I had smoked the ham all day long and I told him. "I did." He looked at me, smiled, and said "This is the best ham I've ever had, Thank you." I swear this made my day so much, it made my year. Every little thing counts in life in yours and someone else's, always be thankful, grateful and forgiving.

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My Veterans Village experience was very fun and welcoming. It made me feel good about what I was doing being that I was and will continue helping others in my community. 


As soon as I walked into the Veterans Village door I felt very comfortable in the environment
provided. There are so many nice friendly people who also volunteer who make it that much
better and entertaining.  


 I made a nice Caesar Salad that everyone seemed to have enjoyed, but even if it was bad
the people there would have still shown how thankful they are just for the thought of bringing something for them. Even though it was a class assignment I think I am going to try to go every once in awhile for the feeling of satisfaction and purpose it gave to me as I left that day.  


 I sometimes need the reminder of how blessed I truly am and that giving to people who
do not have everything given to them should be on everyones todo list. Making a difference in
peoples lives is truly the best feeling of self satisfaction everyone should experience. 

Veteran's Village Reflection

On Thursday, August 27,2015, I had the opportunity to go help give back to the community by serving Veterans (Vets) at the Veterans' Village off of Lake Bradford Road. Me, and 11 other TCC students brought an array of food items such as salad,ham, jambalaya, chicken alfredo, and many different desserts. We were responsible for arranging the set-up, serving line, and clean up for the occasion. Then we made an assembly line so that the vets could be served efficiently. After everyone was fed, I got a chance to talk to some of the service men and women, who were very appreciative of us taking the time out of our busy schedules to accommodate their needs. To me it was a rewarding experience in that I was able to help some of those vets who helped us in the past by fighting for our freedoms.

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It was a pleasure to serve individuals who have served our country.  The men and women are were very thankful for the meals that were provided to them.  We were able to engage in great conversations about their life experiences.  It's nice to know that these men and women are being given the opportunity to start life over again in spite of their challenges.  I look forward to my next opportunity to serve and it is such a nice clean facility.

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Veteran's Village

Volunteering at Veteran's Village was such an eye opening experience and I know my help was appreciated by the veterans. I am looking forward to participating as much as possible to build more of a relationship with the individuals who live there. Thanks to Dr. Soldani I was introduced to this opportunity which gave me such a great sense of satisfaction and respect!

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Hailey

-->(From 9/1/2013) 

Saturday morning I snuck out of the house before the kids were up and headed out to get a pedicure and manicure.  I choose the right color of red (something like “I’m in charge Red!” or “Red Alert Red”) and I am quickly settled into my reclining vibrating seat, ready to think of nothing and come home happy.

I turn on my iPhone. There is no new mail and no new news, so I visit Facebook.

The first thing I see has something to do with “my heart goes out to the family” and then another post that says “I just heard, I can’t believe it.”

I can’t believe it either. She was so young, so free.

I message to a former student and ask what happened. It was a car accident, she said, in the rain, on I-75.

I can’t believe it, so I go to her Facebook page. It must be real. Her friends and family are posting the saddest goodbyes, like Hailey would arrive in heaven and check her messages. Hot salty tears pour down my face and I feel completely helpless.

The nice man with the tattoo on his forearm proclaiming something in calligraphic Vietnamese is intently filing my toenails. I want to tell him something but I can’t.  I wipe my tears and my nose on the inside of my jacket sleeve, hoping no one notices.

I check Facebook again and again, every new message on her wall making it more and more real.

Then I find the story in a Lake City newspaper with her name in the headlines. It is really really real.

I want to kick the man and run out of my pedicure. I want to go somewhere and do something and fix all of this, but I can’t figure what that would be so I sit there.

By the time he is painting my toenails I’ve cried enough that my mascara is gone and my eyes are red. 

I want to cancel my manicure, cancel my day, and throw a shroud of grief over this entire town.

But I do nothing, and let him lead me out of the pedicure station to the nail part of the store.  He applies this amazing gel stuff that will last three weeks, and I want to be happy. While my nails are being done I keep the phone off and watch cooking shows on the TV above his head. Giada is grilling peaches. I will never grill a peach, I think, and wonder again what to do.

Soon enough it is over, my pedicure, my manicure, my time in this little box.  I have to go be a mom and face the rest of the weekend but I don’t want to.

I want to curl up and cry for Hailey, for her brothers and her parents and her cousins and the hundreds of friends she left behind. I want to cry for everything she never did, for everything she thought she would do.

But I don’t curl up and shut down. Instead I hunt through my computer to see if somehow something of hers survived the “big purge” I had to do on my email this summer before we migrate to a new service.

There it was, an essay of encouragement to future students. I skim it for treasure and find it in the end of her letter when she advises future students to make the most of every single day, every opportunity. 

I want to slam the computer closed and forget about writing, about everything and just feel the big hole of loss that is inevitable in life.

But Hailey won’t let me.

Her words that sat on my computer for 3 years come alive and I know what I have to do.

I have to keep going as far as I can for as long as I can, that’s what Hailey did and that’s what she would want me to do.




Monday, August 24, 2015

Would you like to Volunteer at Veterans Village???


Here are the signup links for the next two opportunities....

August 27
www.SignUpGenius.com/go/508094BA5A72E5-827 



September 3
 www.SignUpGenius.com/go/508094BA5A72E5-93veterans


Links for Fall 2015 Students


Service projects



Advice from Former Students


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